​If Only My Teens Would Hear These 35 Things…
 
If there was a window of time that teens would allow me to spill out all of my years of advice and wisdom from being a life-coach and mom, this short list is what I’d like them to know…
 
Dear Teens,
I know it’s hard to see past this time in your life and you may feel disconnected, but, I promise you- you WILL make it through and you will be able to look back and reminisce about these very days sometime in your distant future.  (Probably when your teens are going through the same trials and you wish nothing more than to be able to ease their stress)
 
I have made it my personal mission to help teens get through the tricky time between high school and adult life though classes, workshops, coaching and essentially being the “other Momma”.  But just in case I don’t get a chance to meet up with you, here are just a few things that you probably won’t learn in school, and the test you take on your comprehension of said items, is not a pass or fail grade but a level of success and happiness to be found in your daily life.
 
So if I’ve kept your attention this long, my easily-distracted teens, keep reading.  Here comes the good stuff.
 

1. The choices you make today will impact your future.  You may think that the things you do right now don’t matter, but even when you turn a giant airplane’s direction a fraction of a degree, it completely changes its destination.
2. Your destination is not pre-determined.  You have the power to create the future you choose.  Don’t ever let anyone tell you anything different.
3. No one owes you anything.  If there is something you want, go to work for it.
4. In order to have friends, you must first BE a friend.  And not all friends are true friends.  Those are few and far between and should be treated as special as they are.
5. Goal setting and taking action is the key.  Even if it is a small action.  Work toward your goals a little bit every day.  And you WILL reach them eventually.
6. A goal without action, is just a wish. 
7. Always, always take the high road and walk in integrity.
8. Anything you share on social media is NEVER private.  If you don’t want your mother to see it, don’t post it.  Don’t send it.  Don’t… you know what, better yet, delete it.  Delete it right now.
9. Get enough sleep.  Your brain and body need it to help you in this huge mental and physical growth spurt you are enduring.
10. Choose your friends carefully.  They have more influence over your decisions than you realize.  Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you.  Who you spend the bulk of your time with will shape how far you will go in life.
11. Never stop dreaming.  When you see your dream to reality… dream a new one.
12. Read something positive or influential every day.
13. Choosing a spouse is the single most important decision you will ever make.  Do not rush into a lifetime commitment, but once you do commit, never let go.
14. Learn to take responsibility for everything in your life.  Your words, your choices, your actions and reactions.  By taking responsibility (even though it sounds super scary) is actually the key to your freedom.
15. Value your family.
16. Keep your commitments.  You are only as good as your word.
17. Technology cannot and should not replace human relationships
18. If you feel your parents would disapprove of something you are about to do, practice the Pause.  Think it through to what the consequences might be.  Those “gut” feelings are there for a reason.  Take heed and if you must proceed, proceed with caution.  But trust me- you don’t want to walk willingly into regret.
19. Manners make a difference.
20. Life is hard.  It’s supposed to be.  It’s molding you and shaping you into the person you were meant to be.  Don’t give up.  You appreciate things more if you have to work for them.
21. What is your story?  Who are you?  What do you believe about yourself?  When you know your story, the answers to many of life’s toughest questions are already answered for you.  Have faith in your story.
22. Be good to your parents.  They are doing the best that they can, and really do want what is best for you. (They are not out to ruin your street cred!)
23. Don’t waste your time, money or brain cells on drugs.  Need I say more, cause I can go on for days…
24. Take photos.  Smile.  Commemorate your life.  Appease your mother when she insists on family photos.  You’ll be glad to have them to look back on when she is gone.  These small capsules of your life will keep you company when you are lonely.
25. Don’t judge others.  You have no idea what they may be going through and you don’t like it when it’s done to you.
26. Be kind to yourself.  What you tell yourself everyday will either lift you up and make you stronger or break you down and suck the self-confidence away from you.
27.  Always be willing to help others.
28. Don’t’ take anything for granted.  Be thankful for the good, the bad and the lessons learned.
29. Always be kind to others.  There is absolutely no reason that you can’t be kind.
30. Don’t ruin a perfectly good today by dwelling on a not so good yesterday.  You can’t change what has already happened, but the future is wide open.
31. You don’t HAVE to be in a relationship.  Enjoy your own company!  Figure out who you are.  Be patient.  Love will happen when it’s time.  Work on becoming the right person and the right person will come to you.  (Not necessarily in high school, but someday.)
32. Sometimes things don’t have a solid answer.  Sometimes things aren’t all black and white, either, or, this or that.  Don’t spend your nights thinking on things that just don’t have answers right now.  Sometimes you just have to accept things as they are and let the rest go.  Eventually all the pieces will fall into place, just right.
33. Actions speak louder than words.  Without exception.  Actions prove who someone is.  Words only show you who they think they want to be.
34. If you continue to live your life thinking that everything should be about you, then eventually, that’s all that you will be left with… just you.
35. And one last thing; You are unique and precious and so worthwhile.  You fill my life with sunshine and give me purpose.  You- yes you- can accomplish anything you put your heart to… and I’ll be right here cheering you on.

 
Love,
The Momma
Elizabeth Bourgeret
(motivational teen-life coach and creator of the Total Truth Workshop for Teens.  For more information about her Workshop, classes or coaching, check out her website:  www.totaltruthworkshop.com)
 

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You CAN reach your goals!  Keep reaching!!!
​- Miss Elizabeth

By Colin Powell
Age 17



Utilizing your brain to improve life is a good start to achieving. When you utilize your brain, you set out to acquire qualities that guide you in the correct direction.


Brain Power

To utilize your brain to better your life Think about: 
Commitments:
Talent:
Priorities:
Failure: 
Stating no:
 Rules: 

Commitments:
We all bear commitments. Commitments are a part of life. When you have commitments, you move into promises that you'll get something done. Begin making commitments to you. I commit to alter habits that impede me from accomplishing my goals, or bettering my life. If you commit to it, be sure to see it through.  You develop integrity when people know they can depend on you

Talent:
Evaluate your talents to see how you are able to use them to better your life. While you're evaluating your talents, look for fresh skills. Reach deep within you, accept the irritations, fears, or things you don't like, look past them and discover fresh skills. How can you use your talents more?  What skills can you learn?  What things are you interested in that you can pursue?

Priorities:
Do you have your priorities correct? Do you have all your plans in position? Reassess your plans to make certain that you're on the correct path to better your life. If you notice areas you are able to better, don’t be afraid to take action. Taking action is the best step you'll take in anything you do that helps to better your life.

Failure:
How do you consider failure? Failure inverted is accomplishment. Failure is basic and happens to all us every day. Failure helps us to discover how to evolve and grow into a better individual. If you sit around stressing failure, then you're heading nowhere fast. Failure is a component of life. Learn from your failures, swallow your blame and move to make matters better for you.

Don't Overbook or Over promise:
Individuals hear the word "no" and dread it. No isn't a rejection; rather it is a positive action you take to spare your time to come. When you have to tell someone no, you're being honest about the situation.  If you make a commitment and then are unable to fulfill it you have let yourself down as well as the person you committed to. Occasionally you have to be honest and decline activities or favors for those you care about. For example, you might have to tell your friends "no" when he or she asks you to watch TV when you know you have to study. It's all right to state "no".

Rules: 
We all abide by rules. Rules are a part of life, which occasionally the rules are difficult to digest. You have to learn to digest them anyhow unless you're willing to rise and protest in a positive way. Individuals sounding off about rules they don’t like and not taking action is wasting everyone’s time. If you are having a hard time following the rules of your household, take action and talk to your parents about it.  Don't just retaliate.  Show them that you are responsible enough to discuss the matter.  


You have many choices in life. Great choices and foul options will come your way every day. Occasionally you'll make poor choices, yet when you make errors, don’t dwell rather pull out your resources to see how you may have done things different, and do it different the next time. 

By Quinten Bailey
Age: 17



If you would like to change your old habits into fresh habits you are able to but you'll have to relinquish all your old habits. For some of us it's difficult to change, yet if you take steps to discover ways to change you'll find favorable contemplations.


Bad To Good

Many individuals are raised lying to self and other people. This happens as we’re plagued by a domain filled with beliefs, doctrine, theories, suspicion, guesses, and conclusions. You have to discover how to find your own truth before you are able to better your life.

What are a few of the matters I may do to alter my bad ways to beneficial ways?

This is going to be entirely up to you. We may only offer you helpful ideas, but it takes you to examine fresh tactics that help you to grow. No one may change you, but you. When you're ready to do this you are able to do this with out any ones help. You are able to learn to build the internal gifts you have inside you. The qualities you have include self-respect, self-assurance, trust, self-awareness, self- motivation etc. each quality can build to better yourlife. You have to solve what works for you.

For one thing, you need to determine what is making you do what you do and work out a way to do the correct thing. So if it's the individuals you hang out with perhaps you should find somebody else to hang with. Perhaps individuals from a support group or a group from your church may help you discover ways to alter your habits. The 1st thing you have to do all the same, are stop lying to your self about what ever and make it correct with you. You have to discover how to make great decisions by assessing the consequences.

It's simpler than you think. For example, would you let a drunk person drive you home? If you would then you arrived at a bad decision that may cost your life, or have you put away in jail. If you're sober, why not drive the intoxicated individual home.

Favorable contemplations include acquaintances and loved ones. If your loved ones are dragging you down, or your acquaintances are holding you back, you have to arrive at a choice. The choice might include removing these individuals from your life. We may all live fruitfully and happy without family and friends if need be, but one matter you don’t want is somebody holding you back.

To formulate new skills that guide you to remove bad habits, attempt utilizing your conscious mind. When you observe, listen and hear the things around you, you learn more than you'd reading a book. Observance is the key to achievement. Observance includes self- awareness. Stand back and take a hard view of you. Don't persecute or self-judge, instead seek ways to make your life better. 

By Quinten Bailey
Age: 17



Dishonesty is the beginning of our troubles. When we lie, we build upon lies, which lead to calamity. To live happy you have to learn to tell the truth. Occasionally the truth hurts, but ultimately you'll discover that the truth sets you free. Lies include procrastination.


Be Truthful

Quashing Procrastination
When you dilly-dally, you're wasting time, burning energy, and failing to accomplish your goals. Procrastination is the action of putting matters off. The more you put matters off the more you drop behind. Additionally, procrastination makes an individual lazy, which isn't good for your health. To help you better your life, you need to quit lying to you and tell yourself that you are able to do it. If you take steps to do it now you'll see that your load gets lighter.

Rediscovering the scholar within you:
We set ourselves up for calamity. When we fail to see what we may achieve, we lie to us. We tell ourselves that it's too difficult. What is difficult about getting it done? The key to success is becoming captain over our own emotions. Emotions are mighty tools that either make us or break us. We learn effectively by taking charge of these emotions and distinguishing our inner joys, powers, and so forth. Occasionally you'll discover areas about you that are distressing. Don’t let it fatigue you. Instead take action to take away this behavior, way of thinking and so forth.

When you learn you're engaging in an energy-packed forward motion. You're involving self in experimentations that guide you to success. When you learn you gain or build skills. You find you and what you want. You might run into a pothole someplace down the road, but ultimately, you'll reach success.

Lies are the path to nowhere. When you state, I know it all, you're stating I don't have the energy to learn. You're lying as we learn something every day we live. If you want to live less stressed, quit lying and state, I'm ambitious about learning a fresh subject, skill, experience, and so forth today. Utilize your life challenges and make them your best acquaintance by learning from these challenges.

Changing your thought patterns:
Changing your thoughts is the key to opening up doorways. If you learn to alter thoughts, you'll discover internal abilities, self, and more.

Discovering resources:
Resources are capital gain. When you turn up resources and utilize them, you're taking action to better your life. You are able to discover resources online, at your local library, libraries online, at schools, colleges and more.

How to set up to live a happier, stress-free life: you'll need to ask questions:

Questions:
What do I wish to achieve in my life?
How do I mean to achieve what I wish?
What are the matters I may do to better my personal life?
How may I learn the secrets to living with success?
What tested items do I have that will guide me to success? What may I learn about me and how do I get moving?
How may rehearsing critical thinking assist me?
How may figuring out my learning style help better my life?

Once you accumulate your questions, toss up fresh thoughts to discover your answers. Most of us have the solutions inside us, yet Most fail to discover these answers. 

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Habits, ah those awful habits. Habits are acquired from training, influences, observance, and practice. We acquire many habits throughout our life, which some are great and others are foul. Great habits we may keep, but if one prefers to improve their life the foul habits have to take a hike. Doing away with foul habits however isn't simple, particularly if a dependency is involved. For this reason, we may take a couple of steps to learning how you are able to alter your habits.


Change It

Creating excuses:
Individuals roam through life creating excuses. Anytime an individual sees something complicated, they'll frequently build excuses why they can't deal with the issue. “This is simply the way I am.” This is a basic problem in the world, which we’ve all listened to billions of times. If you're out to better your life though, you need to state, “This is something that obstructs me from accomplishment and I've the might to change it.

The 1st key to success is quit making excuses. Determine how to tell the truth. The truth is the solitary answer that leads you to better your life. When you learn to tell the truth, you'll have to commit self to learning fresh behaviors and habits.

You are able to commit by selecting a fresh habit. Today I plan to drink a lot of water. Some of us hate water, yet water is our way of living fitter. Rather than hating something that will save your life, begin stating, today I'll drink a lot of water. Even if you begin drinking a glass for the first couple of days, you're causing changes.

Today I'm going to quit judging other people and myself. This is a primary mistake individuals make in the world. They expend time judging other people and themselves. This gets them nowhere but in a domain of bedlam. You make your bed; you have to learn to sleep in it, which is why you ought to alter your ways. Judgment is only for our Master in the sky.

Do you think negatively? I can’t change this. My life is full of bunk; I can’t manage it any longer. Why me? Who placed a tag on my head, stating oppress me. If you spend your life thinking negatively and stating negative connotations, attempt altering your ways today. For example, state, I can alter something and I'm going to. Rather than stating life is full of bunk, accept it as reality yet move ahead to make your life more beneficial. Why me... is a primary question, which no one knows how come, yet we have to swallow it, make more beneficial decisions and move ahead. If you feel oppressed, ask you what you're doing that makes you feel this way. Do you have acquaintances or loved ones weighing you down? If so, then kick their behind down the road and make new acquaintances. No one in life is worth you suffering continuously. You've the might to make changes, yet you don't have the might to change others.

When you begin to make changes to better your life, begin small. Rather than jumping the gun, take little steps to success. Too many times individuals attempt to change overnight. This only leads to defeat.

When you're working to alter your life and habits make certain you look for support and feedback. You don't have to walk the road to success solo. Ask somebody you trust to support you and give you feedback when required.